Do a reality check. Be honest with yourself.
My mentor Lisa Sasevich has identified a universal pattern in the rise of most successful leaders. No matter who they are or what they do, there seems to be a 3-year process until they’re able to establish themselves as influencers on a grander scale. “In year 1 you build your business foundation.” You discover your unique gifts, package your expertise, brand yourself and get your team, tools and tactics in place. “In year 2 you’re everywhere”—you’ve got your signature talk and product offerings ready, and you speak, speak, speak. This enables you then “in year 3 to cash in on your mojo!”—as Lisa calls it.
There was only one problem. I was in year 2 and feeling pretty stage-fried.
Honor yourself. Be kind. You’ve come a long way.
I’m most proud of my year 1 accomplishments. I put the pedal to the metal. I got the support, tools and mentoring I needed and deserved. I made not just one but many quantum leaps, both on a personal as well as on a professional level. I gave birth to the most amazing spiritual personal branding process that is setting a new precedence in the industry—at least in my world, and that makes me feel really good. I launched a dozen clients world wide with completely individualized Soul Purpose Brands that will stand the test of time. And, all the while, I refined and improved my transformational program modules to where even my inner perfectionist is starting to be really happy about it, which says a lot. (Psst, she’s a riot, an inner-woven part of my genius. So I can’t really kick her to the curb, you know. 😉 In summary, in my first year in business I did awesome. I really did.
And I was still hiding behind the work I was putting forth.
Kiss off the illusion. Make a declaration.
I was delivering my expertise but wasn’t stepping into the expert persona. Big difference as I came to learn and experience first-hand! Trust me! The irony wasn’t lost on me. As I was helping my clients overcoming their visibility fears left, right and center, I myself was terrified to step into my power on a global scale. This was especially painful since I had a huge yearning to be of service in my highest capacity. In fact, I had trained and prepared myself for my entire life for this special time. I felt like I was going to miss my sacred appointment!
When I got very honest with myself, I realized that I was letting my clients down. Boy, that got to me. I hold the space for them to step into their next greatest iteration, and I wasn’t doing it for myself. At least not to the degree necessary. That’s when I declared first in a silent yet potent prayer and then in public bold roar that nothing was going to stop me in year 2 from “coming out.” Sabine Messner was going to come out and make her presence known in the space, tables and heads turning, wheels screeching. Coming out in a big way via my website platform, my Ezine platform, my public speaking platform, and any other platform opportunity that makes my heart sing.
And that was all there was to it. A double-declaration. With Spirit and my tribe. It was smooth sailing from there.
Kick into ruthless action. Say yes. Allow and feel the support.
What’s so amazing about being totally honest about where I’m at is, that the moment I voice it, it brings peace and acceptance to what is, liberates the creative forces within me, discharged all the tension and fear—all in an instant while the universe rallies to galvanize support. Before I know it obstacles, whether real or perceived, vanish from one moment to the next. It’s like where before they were an enormous mountain range in front or me, now there’s hardly a faint fog layer in my rear view mirror.
So when the opportunity came up to be part of Lisa Sasevich’s book launch, I applied in a heart-beat and was one of the lucky 27 co-authors selected to be part of the book. I felt totally supported by Lisa, her book adviser Rosemary Sneeringer as well as Bob Burnham who handled the book marketing. The whole thing was a gift.
Meanwhile all my clients and friends were showing up as my biggest champions. I got all sorts of amazing tangible support. From accountability check-ins to emotional support to hands-on support to writing support to technical support to strategic support—you name it. I was 1000% totally and utterly supported.
Allow things to fall into place
Already months earlier I had visualized myself on stage and even bought a golden dress—without knowing about the book launch. Then when it was clear that was going to be part of it and saw the dates for Speak-To-Sell, the event where the book was officially announced to the world, I had a feeling that I was going to be on stage on my birthday. I was ripe, I was ready. And it ever so happened on my birthday: I along with my mentor Lisa Sasevich and 26 other authors turned international bestseller on my birthday.
What’s the moral of all this? Timing is divine!
I’m glad I didn’t push for outside recognition or publicity when I needed to be an introvert and allow the taking form of my life’s gifts to emerge. Likewise, I recognized when it was time to stretch beyond my comfort zone, and take the next challenge on. To me it’s a cyclic, sacred dance between receiving, allowing, creating and retrieving.